Relationships

Today I was talking with God about how people treat one another.  It breaks my heart.  I know I'm not perfect at this, but I really do try to see the good in others.  Or to see the root of what might be causing them to act so-called "out of the norm".  Whatever the norm is.
I was reading a note from a friend on Facebook about vain imaginations.  Basically, thinking something is about you when in fact it usually is not.  And even if it is about you, it's not true.  Anything negative is not the truth, it's just that person's opinion.  No matter how scripture covered they make it.  Sure you may be doing something "wrong" in their eyes, but really who is anyone to say what is "wrong" for someone.   It was a very good note that made me ask God "why do good people get so caught up in vain imaginations?"
We are all walking out this life, hopefully guided by our Father's wisdom, so to say someone is doing something wrong is only based on your opinion of your reality.  When people can't look past their reality and see what God may be doing in someone else's life, then they are not operating in Grace.  Grace loves that person and you can remove your opinion and see GOOD in them, just like our Father does for us! 
Maybe that person needs that so called "wrong" path, to work things out in their heart, in order to see the "right".  I am quoting those because it isn't a one size fits all approach, wrong or right is all relative.   What is right/wrong for you may not be right/wrong for someone else.  Look at how different we all are, how our paths are so unique, could a one size fits all approach work for everyone? And I am not talking about accepting the love of our awesome savior, before you get your panties in a wad.  I think Christ is the absolute answer to walking this life out in peace, He was the perfect example, He was our Father, showing us how much He loved us.  He restored our relationship, because He is absolute LOVE!!  I am not talking about absolute truths either, I think it must line up with the word of God, but mainly I am talking about judging and the crust it places on the heart. 
But, once you have the identity of Christ, guess what, your walk and mine may look very different.  And if focus on how wrong my walk is, guess what, you won't focus on how to see the plan for your life.  You can not fit into someone else's mold, it's impossible!  And you shouldn't expect others to fit into your mold!  If you find yourself picking out faults in a specific person often, you should probably see that as an opportunity to examine your own heart.  Usually, there is something we need to see when we start judging others.  God is big enough to protect you and that person, and anyone involved.  Imagine how cool it would be if we could all TRUST God to show us truth and how to love one another instead of putting up walls because of our judgements!   Jesus, our amazing savior, said it best "He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her."  The sin was their judgement.
So God answered my question, "people get caught up in vain imaginations because they try to love based on conditions."  Wow, yes, you are absolutely right, that is the problem.  We cannot love based on conditions, or that love will fade as soon as that person does something we don't agree with.  Then your heart will default to thinking everyone is talking about you because you are loving conditionally instead of unconditionally.  God loves us unconditionally and that is what we are supposed to do.  It may not come easy if you aren't in constant fellowship with him on a heart level.  If your opinions are based on head knowledge and not heart knowledge.  There is a huge difference and you know it once you feel it. 
It is okay to hang around people you agree with, just make sure that agreement is your walk and not someone elses.  I know there are biblical truths and a thousand opinions on what one small scripture means!  So what to do?  TRUST that the God who created you will reveal truth to you past any man's words.  I am not bragging, but sometimes God puts truths into my heart before I even know it's in the Bible.  For real, how awesome is that!  I am not good at Bible quoting, AT ALL, and that used to bother me.  But now, I am glad that I am not, because the living Word always shows me truth.  And most always, it is confirmed quickly.  Sometimes through the written word, nature, a song, and even through another man's words.  It is very easy to see what God is saying actually.  You just have to be sensitive and in the moment to see it.  If your brain is cluttered with vain imaginations, judgements, whatever, you will have trouble seeing it. 
I know from experience, but God can deliver you from your "ways".  lol  He is good, we are created to have loving peaceful relationships.  I know there is ugly out there, and I know you can't just go out and give everyone a hug on the street. You have to be wise.  But those around you, those you really love and know their kindness, their hearts, why not remove those judgements and restore that relationship?  God wants us to do that, to be the bigger person, to love without condition.  It's not always easy, but the fruit from rekindling broken relationships with those you really love, imagine the peace that will follow.  Vain imaginations are a waste of head space.  Don't allow them to rob the relationship from someone you really care about.