I read this blog post via Facebook the other day that led to me reading more of her blogs that were so very good. The reason it captivated my attention was because the basis of her blog fell right into line with something God has been sharing with my heart.
The post was brilliant. It said so many things my heart was screaming. So many things I had already began to put into practice because being distracted just is NOT working for me. I had become a bit addicted to seeing what is going on in everyone else's life and it has caused me to miss moments in my own. :( SUPER SAD FACE! :(
In the last six months, I have gotten SO much better about not being "distracted" with social media, however, it is still something that I occasionally catch myself doing! At times, I have caught myself being zoned-out by the latest Instagram photos, new "pins", emails, Facebook posts, etc. And just to be honest, I have to remind myself that it's crazy to be thinking about what moment I will share with my "friends" next instead of just enjoying it! It is a consumer of thought and time, and it is distracting. It is robbing our children of precious time that we can't get back.
The saddest part is that my kids have learned the art of repeating themselves to get my attention when I am on my phone. Sometimes I even don't hear what people say at all. I have even gotten frustrated at my family for interrupting me while I am trying to "concentrate" on things that aren't even as important as my family is to me. I catch myself pretty quickly these days and snap out of it. However, I still see something about this "culture" we're in that just isn't working for me anymore.
Like the author of the blog post, I have had moments I wish I could take back, words I wish I didn't say. I am human. I know this is something most everyone could say, but I feel like God is calling me to make a commitment to change, to get out of the flow of the norm of this plugged in, but unplugged culture.
Yes, technology has it's benefits. We can learn about any topic we desire within seconds! It's really sad that many people do not know or have forgotten how to have face-to-face interactions with one another. It's sad that our youth is exposed to this massive "popularity" concept that never ends. Every moment is shown to the world, because that's just what people do. I know there is a balance in there somewhere, but it's so easy to get sucked into the obsession of portraying our "best life moments." I know that many people share their lives this way with people who they don't see often, distant friends and relatives, that is the positive side of these outlets. There is the aspect that people can be inspired by your faith, love, and kindness that may never experience that in "real" life. But let's get real, that is not the usual motive. It's pretty rare actually. Even though I have streamlined my Facebook to display the positive posters and limit my interactions, I still can spend too much time reading the "good" stuff, and miss out on what matters most in life. My precious family, my sweet sweet blessings, they deserve my attention more than anyone else on this planet.
I have decided to be VERY intentional about my decision to "unplug". I know I may miss out and be un-cool and so out of the "know" that I seem a bit awkward, but that's a feeling I'm familiar with already. LOL! When I read in the Bible, to be "in this world" but not "of this world", I am inspired, challenged, and ready to be a complete WEIRDO!!!
So I have decided to go completely off the grid, get rid of the phone, and put my kids in a bubble.
JUST KIDDING, STOP FREAKING OUT! ;)
No, like I said, there are benefits of the technology age we live in. I will still use the internet, I will still have a phone, and I will enjoy seeing the lives of distant family and friends. But I am seeking to find balance, to be present when I am in fellowship with my face-to-face family and friends, and to not let the "social" media "look at me" trend suck me into it's trap. My intentions will be first to be present in REAL life and whatever time is leftover, to share it with the people who I don't see everyday. We have grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends, etc. who we enjoy watching live life and sharing our lives with via the internet. I want my motives, beyond that, to be to fellowship with and maybe inspire others. I know everyone won't agree with me, and I know this is something MY heart is speaking to me, but I'm certain others may struggle with this very issue as well. There is no reason to condemn or judge either way, but to be present is a present to those around us and most importantly to be present with God is the greatest gift of all. He is teaching us always, but if we are constantly distracted and getting irritated when he is trying to speak to our hearts, we may be missing out on something that could set us free, heal us, and offer much more peace than acceptance of man ever could. So the author of the post has gone "hands free", I am calling it "unplugging". Same concept, choosing to BE HERE, to cause experiences of LOVE with our loved ones, strangers, people who really need a dose of the REAL Jesus......I am committed to this cause.
Monday, June 3, 2013
Sunday, May 26, 2013
Fearfully and Wonderfully Made
We arrived at the hospital at about 11 a.m. on the day of Noah's surgery. We waited about 2 hours before they called us back. They took Noah's vitals and we went through the usual steps and questions. On my side of the family, there is a family history of an anesthesia reaction called Malignant Hypothermia. It is a very serious complication. For any of Noah's surgeries, they take the precautions necessary to prevent any reaction. The machines have to be completely cleaned of any triggering agent. I mentioned this at his last appointment to the doctor who said he would make sure it was noted everywhere. However, I have discovered that no matter how many times you mention this, somehow it slips through the cracks of communication. At a previous surgery, even though we had told several people, it was missed. Had I not mentioned it, Noah would have been at risk. I actually called four times prior to this surgery, and knew the doctor had noted it, but somehow it happened again. So when this happens, surgery gets delayed due to waiting on cleaning the machines. I was frustrated that this happened again. Noah's doctor was also frustrated. But it was what it was, so we waited another 45 minutes for Noah to be wheeled away for surgery.
He was so sweet. He was taking pictures on his DS of all the people who came in the room. He was very calm and relaxed. It's like he has a supernatural understanding beyond his years. It's amazing. When they started talking about possible complications, which I had heard most of them before, my anxiety levels were rising. It's the point where you feel like taking your child and running away. But, I knew that the benefits far outweigh the risks. Risk though, is always a scary reality, and it's never easy to listen to what "might" happen, even if it's a 1 in a thousand chance. Throughout Noah's life, he has been on the other side of the statistical stance several times. So I began to internally begin what Mamas do best, worry and wish that this was a decision I didn't have to make.
I stayed calm and strong for Noah, but as soon as they took him away, I told Jason I needed a bathroom to cry in. I don't know why, but I like to hide when I cry. So I went in and let it out. Even though I was crying and sad, I still had peace. I was anxious, because it's never easy to let your child go into an operating room, no matter how small or big the risk. There is still a possibility of something going wrong, so it's near impossible to be content until you are holding them again.
So we ate lunch and came back into the waiting room about an hour and a half later. Then it got to the three hour mark and we got a phone update from the nurse. I was assuming it would be to let us know the surgery was over, but she said it was going to take 2 more hours. She said Noah was doing great but that it took a little longer to get a good look at what was going on around the ear bones. The doctor had told us that he wouldn't know exactly what was going on until he was inside Noah's ear, so I was thinking that it must have been really complicated! I still had peace but I was really anxious to see Noah.
We got another update about an hour later and she said he was doing good and should be done by 7 p.m. The last 2 hours were the longest. I hadn't prepared to wait this long, but that's what it took. At about 7, Noah's doctor came out to the waiting room and explained what he had found. He told us it was the most complicated case he has ever seen. There is a facial nerve that runs through the ear which we had heard about during the "risk talk". If damage is done to that nerve, it can cause permanent paralysis of the face, and it would appear as though the person had a stroke. He said Noah's nerve actually split around the ear bones and join back together on the other side. He had only seen this once before and said he would maybe see it three times in his whole career. It is extremely rare. There is Noah on the other side of the statistics again. His doctor went into great depth and drew many diagrams for us to understand exactly what he had seen and had to do. He mentioned that if the surgery had been done by a doctor who wasn't very aware of the nerve split, it could have been very bad. Immediately, I was thankful that Noah was placed in his hands. I had always felt peace about this doctor. (He wasn't Noah's usual ENT, his ENT actually referred us to him due to his expertise as a surgeon of these type issues.) He also told us that only one bone in Noah's ear, the stapes, was abnormal. And it was the bone prosthesis that gives him the best possibility of hearing again. The other two bones, which could have been more complicated to restore hearing, were fine. So he took Noah's stapes out, and replaced it with a prosthesis. He rebuilt Noah's ear drum with some cartilage from his own ear and then completed the surgery. There is another awesome element of this surgery as well. He had planned to make an incision and basically lay Noah's ear open to do this procedure. Even though Noah had the split nerve, he was able to see well enough with the endoscope to do the procedure without making the incision! This is really awesome because that would have added to Noah's discomfort and recovery aspects.
Jason said to me, "now we know why this was the perfect timing." Noah hasn't been able to hear since birth and we knew it was probably due to a congenital defect in the ear. However, Noah's journey has been carefully played out one step at a time. Yes we have ultimately made decisions about what is next, but I can tell you that God has led us to know when to take the next step. I can't completely explain it, but somehow my heart has known even without knowing what is going on. Sometimes you just can't fully explain it, it's the living spirit of Christ and I am forever eternally thankful for the love of God. And sometimes even though we get scared, feel anxious, mad at the situation, and even feel like we have no idea how to hear from God, when all is said and done, it makes perfect sense. I can say that I am not sure of why things happen in this life, but I can say I am sure God is with us every step of the way. His love for us surpasses our understanding, but in my heart I have a constant reassurance He is always present. He can handle our emotions, and we don't have to have it all figured out. I know Jesus was with Noah, I just know it. He was guiding the surgeon's hands just as many had prayed. He was holding my hand and giving me peace in the middle of my worries.
And as for Noah, his only complaint was that the mask they put on him was covering his eyes and he couldn't see. He woke up from surgery smiling. The nurse said he was very mature for his age and was the best patient of the day. We hear that a lot, amazement at the strength and understanding he has to be such a young boy. I also can't explain the special spirit Noah has, but I can say that I am extremely thankful that God chose me to be his mother. Noah's journey has broke my heart more than I could express, but the pure joy and love I feel from being entrusted to care for him makes it all make sense. He has been my greatest teacher in discovering how much God loves us. I have a feeling Noah will teach many people the love of God over the course of His life.
"For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well."
He was so sweet. He was taking pictures on his DS of all the people who came in the room. He was very calm and relaxed. It's like he has a supernatural understanding beyond his years. It's amazing. When they started talking about possible complications, which I had heard most of them before, my anxiety levels were rising. It's the point where you feel like taking your child and running away. But, I knew that the benefits far outweigh the risks. Risk though, is always a scary reality, and it's never easy to listen to what "might" happen, even if it's a 1 in a thousand chance. Throughout Noah's life, he has been on the other side of the statistical stance several times. So I began to internally begin what Mamas do best, worry and wish that this was a decision I didn't have to make.
I stayed calm and strong for Noah, but as soon as they took him away, I told Jason I needed a bathroom to cry in. I don't know why, but I like to hide when I cry. So I went in and let it out. Even though I was crying and sad, I still had peace. I was anxious, because it's never easy to let your child go into an operating room, no matter how small or big the risk. There is still a possibility of something going wrong, so it's near impossible to be content until you are holding them again.
So we ate lunch and came back into the waiting room about an hour and a half later. Then it got to the three hour mark and we got a phone update from the nurse. I was assuming it would be to let us know the surgery was over, but she said it was going to take 2 more hours. She said Noah was doing great but that it took a little longer to get a good look at what was going on around the ear bones. The doctor had told us that he wouldn't know exactly what was going on until he was inside Noah's ear, so I was thinking that it must have been really complicated! I still had peace but I was really anxious to see Noah.
We got another update about an hour later and she said he was doing good and should be done by 7 p.m. The last 2 hours were the longest. I hadn't prepared to wait this long, but that's what it took. At about 7, Noah's doctor came out to the waiting room and explained what he had found. He told us it was the most complicated case he has ever seen. There is a facial nerve that runs through the ear which we had heard about during the "risk talk". If damage is done to that nerve, it can cause permanent paralysis of the face, and it would appear as though the person had a stroke. He said Noah's nerve actually split around the ear bones and join back together on the other side. He had only seen this once before and said he would maybe see it three times in his whole career. It is extremely rare. There is Noah on the other side of the statistics again. His doctor went into great depth and drew many diagrams for us to understand exactly what he had seen and had to do. He mentioned that if the surgery had been done by a doctor who wasn't very aware of the nerve split, it could have been very bad. Immediately, I was thankful that Noah was placed in his hands. I had always felt peace about this doctor. (He wasn't Noah's usual ENT, his ENT actually referred us to him due to his expertise as a surgeon of these type issues.) He also told us that only one bone in Noah's ear, the stapes, was abnormal. And it was the bone prosthesis that gives him the best possibility of hearing again. The other two bones, which could have been more complicated to restore hearing, were fine. So he took Noah's stapes out, and replaced it with a prosthesis. He rebuilt Noah's ear drum with some cartilage from his own ear and then completed the surgery. There is another awesome element of this surgery as well. He had planned to make an incision and basically lay Noah's ear open to do this procedure. Even though Noah had the split nerve, he was able to see well enough with the endoscope to do the procedure without making the incision! This is really awesome because that would have added to Noah's discomfort and recovery aspects.
Jason said to me, "now we know why this was the perfect timing." Noah hasn't been able to hear since birth and we knew it was probably due to a congenital defect in the ear. However, Noah's journey has been carefully played out one step at a time. Yes we have ultimately made decisions about what is next, but I can tell you that God has led us to know when to take the next step. I can't completely explain it, but somehow my heart has known even without knowing what is going on. Sometimes you just can't fully explain it, it's the living spirit of Christ and I am forever eternally thankful for the love of God. And sometimes even though we get scared, feel anxious, mad at the situation, and even feel like we have no idea how to hear from God, when all is said and done, it makes perfect sense. I can say that I am not sure of why things happen in this life, but I can say I am sure God is with us every step of the way. His love for us surpasses our understanding, but in my heart I have a constant reassurance He is always present. He can handle our emotions, and we don't have to have it all figured out. I know Jesus was with Noah, I just know it. He was guiding the surgeon's hands just as many had prayed. He was holding my hand and giving me peace in the middle of my worries.
And as for Noah, his only complaint was that the mask they put on him was covering his eyes and he couldn't see. He woke up from surgery smiling. The nurse said he was very mature for his age and was the best patient of the day. We hear that a lot, amazement at the strength and understanding he has to be such a young boy. I also can't explain the special spirit Noah has, but I can say that I am extremely thankful that God chose me to be his mother. Noah's journey has broke my heart more than I could express, but the pure joy and love I feel from being entrusted to care for him makes it all make sense. He has been my greatest teacher in discovering how much God loves us. I have a feeling Noah will teach many people the love of God over the course of His life.
"For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well."
I have a feeling Noah definitely knows that full well, and I absolutely know he is fearfully and wonderfully made.
Wednesday, May 22, 2013
The Love of My LIfe
I am blessed with a wonderful husband. He definitely makes life fun! His energy is contagious and has carried me through many times when I've had none!
But my husband also has an amazing heart. I want to share something that he did recently that made me really proud to be his wife.
One of the managers he works under was recently diagnosed with cancer. He is really young. He is really sick and has been in the hospital for a while.
A couple of weeks ago, Jason went to speak to a group of new salesmen. He is really successful at work, and has encouraged and helped many others to have success in their job. His heart is always looking to offer advice to anyone who reaches out to him. I love that about him!
He was in the area, so he went by to visit his friend in the hospital. But he went above just visiting. He took his ukelele in and played for him. He mentioned that it must be hard to just lay in a hospital bed all the time, so he was hoping to lift his spirits.
As he was playing, a lady about my age walked by. She asked the nurse to ask Jason to come play for her as well. So he did. He played for a complete stranger. And it made her day.
Not only did he play for them, he played his ukelele walking down the halls of the hospital and in the elevator. He said people were smiling and giving him thumbs up. And he did this in his work uniform, which made me laugh. A really tall, handsome Orkin man, walking around the halls of a hospital playing a little ukelele.
After I got off the phone with him, I actually cried. It touched my heart so deeply. One of the things I love most about my husband is that he doesn't think about what other people think about him. He is genuine. Sometimes people, really uptight people, don't know how to take this freedom he expresses. But I LOVE IT! I know God blessed me in the most amazing way when he brought Jason into my life. I actually was one of those uptight people who didn't like him so much when I first met him. But I'm glad I gave him a chance because he has helped me to overcome so much. I couldn't ask for a better life partner.
I love you Jason. I couldn't ask for a better husband. I am thankful that God paired us together in this life. I know eternity is going to be even better. And I know you worry that you won't be able to kiss me in heaven, but I have a feeling God won't mind if we do.
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